This is excellent nashah. I am saddened when I see brothers come to Jumuah with clothes that are in disrepair. For those brothers that work jobs that require them to wear workman’s clothes, I can understand, as they may not have the opportunity to change before coming. But I see many young men who do have the opportunity and don’t. But more in spirit with the article, I see so many Muslim men who dress with no care or attention to detail. This is regrettable, as we have had a tendency, at least in the indigenous expression of Islam, to cordon off our Islam to just rituals, while leaving the other aspects in a state of disarray. I was reading a piece on Willie Brown [non-Muslim], the former mayor of San Francisco in which he was once called “The Best Dressed Man in San Francisco” by Esquire magazine. I feel there is a self-esteem issue at play amongst us Muslims, which manifests in a variety of ways, but this is certainly one of its symptoms.
wa alakum Al-Salaam Marc&Hello everyone,
Top-shelf post muslimfitforlife.There’s not much from Quran or Hadith that I could think of that you didn’t already include.
There’s an old American colloquilism that says “clothes make the man, this isn’t entirely true,epecially if we adorn ourselves out of a sense of arrogance.
But,folks..it doesn’t have to be that way,and this is why i enjoy this post so much.
Grooming,dress,physical fitness,eating habits,and especially MANNERS are topics which seem to be woefully missing from our lectures and discussions as Muslims today.
What’s particularly sad to me is that when I devoloped an interest in Islam,prior to conversion,over 20 years ago,it seemed like the Muslim men that I met had it so together in almost all of these areas.
AND,not only that,they pulled it off while acting humble,AND very masculine at the same time!!!
(how about that)
Folks,this isn’t to hard if ya think about it a little.we are naturally more attracted to places,things,and people who seem attractive,intelligent,efficient,and probably most important for males:CONFIDENTLY COOL:YET POLITE!(it can be done,and that’s a big reason I emraced Islam-in addition to the obvious Truth of the Qur an and Hadith).
Willie Brown was as sharp as a tack,good point Marc!
This is kind of funny for me to admit,but I imagine that I’m not alone on this one.
When I was in my teens,and even before,I thought that male clergy members and politicians were the smoothest dudes around(and for the most part they are).
I would say things to myself like “these are men that men want to be like,and women want to be with!” hahaha
That’s not a bad thing though,necessarily.We need to always check our intentions and only fear Allah ultimatly;but,if we want to “win hearts and minds”,we NEED to put our best selves forward in every way..for the sake of Allah!
Sorry I haven’t stopped by in a while but have been reading the blog from my emails alhamdulillaah great reads and great wisdom!
Funny I was reading the clothes post last week just before my interview at a corporate law firm. From a sister’s perspective if I may I believe power dressing is hugely important in business and cultural environments in a society whereby everyone is concerned with outward appearances and is amazing how Islamically you can have beauty outwardly and inwardly subhanAllaah.
A few tips for the sisters after noticing that quite a few of my barrister friends wore triangle hijabs. I opted for this for the interview and it does look a lot smarter than the pashmina. Primarily I wear the abaya but try to wear a suit jacket or smart cardigan to complement it. Long smart tunics and smart dresses and skirts also work a treat for sisters like myself who feel quite compromised in western business settings and often you are the ONLY hijaabi!
Also whether it be for casual or smart . I now try going for scarves that donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t need ironing and are fashionable creased Ã¢â‚¬â€œ as it saves so much time alhamdulillaah!
I donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t know about the clergymen”perhaps its a sign of Ã¢â‚¬ËœholinessÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ that supposedly attracts these Ã¢â‚¬ËœwomenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ you are talking about but yes smart attire on politicians or your average Joe Bloggs still looks better on the eye!
Well alhamdulillaah I did get the internship at the law firm, so thank you for the nasiha, now I need to work on that thing called TIME, inshaAllaah itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll happen Ã¢â‚¬â€œ duÃ¢â‚¬â„¢aas please.
Also perhaps when you get the chance Ã¢â‚¬â€œ there could be some discussion on recreational activities and exercise. I recently started kickboxing and alhamdulillaah find it very beneficial especially as its at a sisters only gym.
Perhaps there could be encouragement of the Prophetic Sunnah activities such as archery, horseriding etc
Ps Ã¢â‚¬â€œ if people are based in London would it be possible to recommend places and things to people inshaAllaah? I pray you continue to benefit us even more, ameen.